What adventures we've had since we got married, but I'll not bore you with all the details now. Just wanted to let you know that we bought a house and have been busy fixing it up and moving in. I'm typing this while sitting on the floor of my very empty apartment. I'll post some pictures as soon as I have a desk to sit at.

Hope you have a happy new year!

Please bring your cameras this weekend and take lots of pictures. Then join our dangerbar Flickr group and share your pictures with us. If you're tagging your photos, might I suggest including "dangerbar" as a tag?

If you're twittering about our wedding, remember to include #dangerbar so that we can see what you're saying about us on Twitter.

Yes, this is what happens when someone trained as a librarian plans a wedding - not only must it be fun, it must be findable!

A couple years ago, thanks to our friends Matt and Rebecca, we learned that in Pennsylvania you don't need an officiant to marry you. Since it was founded by Quakers, and they don't believe in having pastors or priests go between you and a God, the state offers a "self-uniting license." Matt and Rebecca's wedding was awesome and the idea of a DIY wedding seemed perfect for us.

So on Saturday we will marry ourselves. We also borrowing a some other elements from the traditional Quaker wedding, including:

• Everyone will be given the opportunity to share any words of wisdom, stories (not embarrassing), or prayers for us.
• There will probably be some moments of silence - and that's ok.
• Each one of you (even kids who can write) will be asked to sign our wedding certificate as witnesses.

Here's a quick overview of a traditional Quaker wedding. Hope you're looking forward to the big day as much as we are!

Brad and I don't really care - we want you to be comfortable. Our wedding will be a fairly informal affair, so leave your suits in moth balls. For the guys, maybe a nice sport coat with khakis or jeans? For the ladies, a spring dress or something you'd normally wear to work? As long as you don't look like you're about to go outside and mow the lawn, I think you'll be fine. 

Just a short walk from our wedding and the reception, we've arranged for discounted parking at the Parkway Corp.'s 1845 Walnut Street Garage (entrances open on Walnut and Sansom Streets). Just ask to have your parking ticket stamped when you arrive at the Ethical Society so you can receive the special $12 rate for the day.

Brad's Godmother, Aunt Patsy, is going to host a special egg hunt for all the kids during the reception on Saturday, so make sure your cameras are ready (and upload your photos afterward to our dangerbar flickr group).

I cannot wait to see the mayhem that ensues! Easter was one of my favorite holidays growing up (primarily because the Easter Bunny didn't scare me like Santa Claus), and I remember coming home from church and running around the house with Sam, looking for the treat-filled eggs hidden all over. This tradition continued until I was in college — Brad even hid eggs one time (and it took a year to find some of those few well-hidden treasures)

We've found a real bar (not to be confused with this virtual "dangerbar") to host our after party!

All grown-ups are invited to join us for drinks starting around 8 p.m. on Saturday night at Black Sheep Pub, just a few blocks south of the Westin on 17th Street. We've got the entire second floor to ourselves!

Anyone visiting from the burbs may wish to consider staying over - you have a week left to book rooms at the Westin's courtesy rate!

If you plan on staying at The Westin Philadelphia (where the reception will be), you've only got two weeks left to book your room at the $199 courtesy rate.

 To make your reservation, call 1-888-627-8153 by March 4, 2009. Be sure to mention the Buker/Spenla wedding.

For our first date (April 4!), Brad and I saw "A Midsummer Night's Dream." at the Arden Theatre in Old City. We'd been friends for about a year already, but I remember being very nervous. And I was so impressed with Brad's restaurant choice — the first restuarant I'd ever been to that was entirely vegetarian (sadly, Cherry Street Vegetarian has closed).

Well, I just received a postcard for the Arden Children's Theatre production of "A Year with Frog and Toad." Not quite "A Midsummer Night's Dream," but some of you in town with children might be interested in checking it out. It's a quick cab ride from the hotel and a few blocks from Independence Hall and the Liberty Bell. Peformances begin at 12 p.m. and 4 p.m. on Saturday and Sunday. Additional times and ticket information are listed on the website.

If you're interested in recreating our vegetarian Chinese dinner, check out Su Xing House at 1508 Sansom Street. There's also a couple of great vegetarian places in Chinatown that I'd be happy to give you more info about.

As I'm sure you know, Brad and I loath big business and consumerism, and the wedding industry rife with that ridiculousness. Flowers seemed like just one more thing we were supposed to do. Then I found Papertini, originally a one-woman business run out of a West Philly apartment, and thought, "How much more DIY can you get?"

I initially emailed the owner, Tanti, some vague ideas about potted plants, spring flowers, and variations of my mantra "simple and elegent." She came back with amazing and very enthusastic suggestions that really inspired me. Tonight we met over coffee and discussed the options and details, and now I'm very psyched.

Why does this matter to you? Well, every table at the reception will have potted daffodils that need a home after the wedding. I would love to visit your garden one day and see our wedding daffodils!